Angela Nwachukwu, 72, a British woman from Dorchester, Dorset has narrated how she met her Nigerian husband on Facebook.
Angela, a retired taxi driver, got married to Owerri-based Computer Engineer CJ Nwachukwu in 2015, three months after he added her on Facebook.
The wedding day was also the first time they met face-to-face, and although she had spent £20,000 visiting Nigeria and trying to get him a visa, his application has been rejected twice.
“CJ is the most caring man any woman could want to be with. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. I know in my heart we belong together and we won’t stop fighting until we can be together as husband and wife. We won’t let this break us,” she told The SUN.
Angela, who had been single for 6 months prior to meeting CJ, had been in a 16-year relationship.
“After my relationship ended, I felt lonely. We had become more like friends than partners so we had decided to split. After being single for six months, I saw a gorgeous young man had sent me a friend request on Facebook.
I did wonder why he had added me but I accepted and he sent me a message telling me how lovely my profile photo was. He was so handsome, with big, brown eyes and a body to match. I didn’t see the harm in striking up a conversation with him.
We chatted for hours about our families and hobbies. It was like we’d known each other for years. Before I knew it, we were messaging daily.
The only problem was he was 45 years younger and lived 4,000 miles away in Nigeria,” she said.
The pensioner added: “After the wedding, I found it hard leaving CJ. I knew I’d see him again soon but my family visa application was rejected. I was so determined to get him a visa I hired lawyers to fight for us. I’ve since visited him twice. We’ve spent a combined £20,000 trying to see each other. I’ve used my savings and he has gradually paid me back half.”
Angela, who has sons aged 50, 47 and 43, said she couldn’t help falling for CJ.
“Despite our huge age gap, we got on really well. I couldn’t help it and began to develop feelings for him. I tried to stop myself. He was six years younger than my oldest grandchild. But I couldn’t help falling for him.
When I first told my son about CJ, he was worried it might be a scam, so he checked him out online. After seeing how squeaky-clean his social media was, he felt he was genuine. They could all see how happy I was.
We started chatting on Skype and I’d get butterflies when I saw his face on the computer. After a few weeks, CJ told me he had feelings for me. I was so happy,” she said.
She added that he popped the question in February 2015, a month after they started chatting.
“I was so taken aback when he asked me to marry him. I thought he was joking. But he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.
Of course, I said yes. He was beaming at me with such a big smile on his face. Knowing I made him that happy was all the reassurance I needed. There was such an amazing chemistry between us.
CJ had planned the whole day and had bought us both wedding rings. Sadly, none of my family could make it as it was such short notice. But I felt happy to have their blessings.
The six-hour plane journey felt like a lifetime. I was worried CJ might not like me in person. But the moment I saw him waiting for me I knew I’d made the right decision. I gave him a hug and he kissed me.
We’d originally planned to wait until the wedding night to consummate our relationship but we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. CJ was so loving and passionate,” she said.
The wedding took place in April 2015, and Angela described it as the “happiest day” of her life.
“The ceremony was so beautiful and CJ had organised it all perfectly. It was the happiest day of my life. I felt so lucky — but it was bittersweet because I knew I had to go back to England. The two weeks I was there flew by,” she said.
Angela began the process of visa application for her husband but it has been turned down twice.
The Visa was rejected because officials didn’t think we had financial backing, as I was retired.
Over the following months I tried again and again to appeal the decision. It broke my heart every time it was denied. He wasn’t even allowed to visit me on a tourist visa.
I’d waited so long for true love — and now I’d finally found it, it was being kept from me. I know there are scam marriages and they get hold of older people like me. But they find out if you have money first.
I told CJ from the beginning I haven’t any money. But he told me, ‘It’s you I want’. I know it goes on and that’s why I was so upfront. I have helped CJ financially but he has always paid me back.
Our only hope now is that CJ will be allowed to come next year on a student visa to study his Masters in computing. I’m hoping to go to Africa later this year to visit him and I’m counting down the days until I can see him again.